香山リカのココロの万華鏡:いじめは誰にでも起きる /東京

July 29, 2012(Mainichi Japan)
Kaleidoscope of the Heart: Bullying could happen to anyone
香山リカのココロの万華鏡:いじめは誰にでも起きる /東京

The backlash against the problem of bullying has spread further.

Following a recent publication of my column here, in which I wrote: “Why are those who are being bullied not seeking help? This is a problem that requires further thought,” I was criticized for “trying to say that the victims who aren’t seeking help are to blame.”

Needless to say, that is not the case. What I was really trying to say is that there are cases when, being in the swirl of all of this turmoil, some people are just unable to call for help, because they cannot fully realize what is happening to them.

As a matter of fact, I have witnessed this situation at my consultation room a couple of times now.

Among these cases was a parent who brought their junior high school-aged daughter to me, saying she had been unwilling to go to school.
After talking with the girl, I came to realize that she had been a victim of malicious bullying.

However, when I told her that I think her problem was not her refusal to go to school, but the bullying itself, telling her she was correct not to go to school, she shook her head in denial, saying she disagrees with my opinion.

I wonder, could this be some sort of refusal to accept that one is being bullied?

There are other cases, in which although bullied children gather courage to tell their parents and schools that they have been bullied, the adults themselves refuse to accept the reality.

I wonder if this is what happened at the school in Otsu, where a boy committed suicide after being bullied by classmates.

Many adults think that for bullying to occur, there should be other fundamental problems happening at the institution.

Many people refuse to accept that bullying is actually happening, on the grounds that theirs is “a proper institution, that has nothing to do with badly handled households or schools.”

We all need to acknowledge that, unfortunately, with the current school system and society, bullying could happen anywhere.

Therefore, people who have fallen victim to bullying or schools where such incidents have occurred do not need to think that there is something wrong with them or the institution.

Children who are being bullied should try to stay away from the place where that is happening, or in other words — the school.

Such children’s parents should welcome them at home, while school officials should share the responsibility for the incident and deal with it together, instead of putting it all on the child’s homeroom teacher or other single individuals.

Nobody should try to turn a blind eye to bullying or attempt to hide the truth from the public.

In order to protect children from being bullied, you should not think of it as something atypical.

You should think of it as something that could happen anywhere and to anyone.

I would like to repeat that one more time.

(By Rika Kayama, psychiatrist)
毎日新聞 2012年07月24日 地方版

srachai について

early retired civil engineer migrated from Tokyo to Thailand
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